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Every teenager rebels against authority at some point–talks back, breaks curfew, or disobeys. But literally millions of teens take their rebellion to a point where it disrupts their families and endangers their own futures or even their lives. If one of these teens is yours, you’ve probably lived through years of conflicting advice and pat solutions that don’t last. Finally, this breakthrough guide from a master therapist will show you the seven steps to positive, permanent change for you and your teenager:
1. Learn the real reasons for teen misbehavior.
2. Make an ironclad contract to stop that behavior.
3. Troubleshoot future problems.
4. End button-pushing.
5. Stop the “seven aces” — from disrespect to threats of violence.
6. Mobilize outside help.
7. Reclaim lost love within the family.
Clear, compassionate, and packed with real-life solutions to real-life problems, this book gives parents the tools they need to turn their families’ lives around for good.
Parenting Your Out-of-Control Teenager: 7 Steps to Reestablish Authority and Reclaim Love
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We would have a problem applying some of the heavy techniques in this book for our moderately out-of-control kids. I think this is a good book for those with seriously out of control teenagers. However for both the serious and less serious cases, some of the recommendations in the book are just too unrealistic, and a little repetitive.
Rating: 2 / 5
This book was recommended by a therapist while we were struggling with our soon to be 15 year old at the time. It was devasting. The concepts and suggestions are embarressing, insulting and degrading to teenagers and show no respect for their individualism, personal struggles or pain. Neither does it truly take into account how many of these teenagers have special needs that need to be considered with patience, humility and self restraint on the part of Authoritarian parents. It is rough having an out of control child. It hurts the entire family and many tears are shed but to further alienate these children is offensive. I know. I did it. I read the book and threw it out. After too much money spent on therapy and programs and taking advice from too many school counselors I found
“Positive Discipline For Teenagers” by Jane Nelson and Lynn Lott. What a concept! Respect these Teenagers! A year ago I was worried my son might end up in jail. Today I’m worried if he is getting enough protein! He is a conscientious cheerfull young man who respects life, is a Vegan and spends time on his own learning to control his anger and disabilities and discusses openly with his Father and I.Thanks to Jane and Lynn for their wonderful book.
Get “Positive Discipline for Teenagers” before your child hits puberty and stay clear of “Parenting Your Out of Control Teenager”. Learn to respect and love each other now.
Rating: 1 / 5
A must buy for beneficial strategic parenting info! Good information to help recognize various behavioral patterns.
Rating: 5 / 5
Parents may not agree with everything written in this book, although when it comes to building a stronger family bond, the author has made a valid point. As a parent, and as a counsellor, there were statements made here that I could not totally agree with. However, the author has made an obvious attempt to bridge the gap between teens and parents and any constructive advice that will help bring that relationship closer together and become more harmonious is worth reading.
I did not like the fact the author referred to difficult teens as “out-of-control.” Technically, that may well be the case, but labelling does not help the situation. In retrospect, I have also come across many parents who are “totally out of control” and lack effective parenting skills. That can be a major reason why some teens rebel so strongly.
On the positive side, the author stresses the importance of listening to your teen and increasing the family bond. Teens need discipline, but we must also understand that this phase of life is just as trying for teens as it is for parents. Children often have a way of testing their limits and “jamming the buttons” until we actually believe we are losing our sanity. Parents should also bear in mind that while teens often rebel, those same limits and restrictions can make them feel loved and protected (although few teens would ever admit it.) Love, acceptance and understanding go a long way in building strong relationships. Strong communication is the key.
The author offers some good advice, but also some questionable advice in dealing with teenagers. I am all for the “tough love approach” when needed; however, there were times when the author’s approach came across as using authority and control to the extreme, and that, too, can have a serious psychological impact on the teen in years to come. Teens are in a phase when many lack self-esteem and confidence in the first place. An overbearing “Gestapo attitude” can make problems far worse and result in a different set of problems in adult years. Readers may want to read the book and decide for themselves “where to draw the line.”
Rating: 3 / 5
Every child and every parent requires a unique set of controls and techniques. This book provides many options and ideas for dealing with a very difficult situation. Keep exploring as many options as possible http://bit.ly/6Jt8zT
Rating: 4 / 5
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