I wake up in the morning sooo tired because my newborn still wakes up 2-3 times a night to nurse.
I always hear people say (including my husband) ‘sleep when he sleeps today’
But then, baby falls asleep and I can’t relax because of all the laundry, dishes, etc etc there is to do!
Anyone else feel this way?
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I’m right there with you on that!! I’m so OC about stuff…I feel like I am being lazy if I go to sleep with the bathrooms needing to be cleaned, the dishes done, etc.
Everyone tells me it doesn’t matter-that it will wait until I feel like doing it-but I just can’t. I honestly can’t rest knowing there is a mess.
My husband will help if I ask him too-but he never does it the way I like-so I just do it myself.
I was almost never able to follow this advice. Partially it was because I have a lot of trouble sleeping during the day, no matter how tired I am. I actually let the house go to hell, but I also didn’t want to sleep when he was sleeping because I enjoyed having some time to myself.
I was just tired a lot. It wasn’t that bad. You find the reserves you need during this time.
I know they say sleep when the baby sleeps and the dishes will still be there but I feel you I see the house a mess and have to start picking up things and now that I am back at work it is really crazy. But it will get better it really will. I have 4 kids 13, 5, 20 months and 2 months I know from experience it will get better.
oh my lord I feel the same way. I think I slept when the baby slept like 2 or 3 times when he was just born. Otherwise, it’s impossible. I agree, there is so much to get done that you just can’t relax. And then people say that the chores can wait, NO THEY CAN’T not when you are almost out of clothes to wear and dishes to use. It’s impossible. Even when I don’t have chores to do, I might try to relax but Im not sleeping, because he doesn’t nap long enough anyway.
I was terrible at it, too . . . unless it was night time I couldn’t master sleeping when my twins slept. I did try to relax and occasionally I would doze off while one my kids slept on my chest but that was about it . . .
There was always dishes, laundry and other things waiting to be done. I used to tell myself that I would just take “15 minutes” and get these couple things done . . . then it would turn into an hour or so and they were up from their naps before I could take a break!
Occassionally, if my husband was home, I would nap while he watched them but that was about it.
It will get better when your little one sleeps longer . . .
ETA – I would insist on taking a nap when your husband comes home from work . . . if his job is stressful etc . . . and he “needs” a nap, too then I would take turns. sleep depravation for parents of infants should be a shared experience!
They say to do that but it’s not easy when you have other things to do when the baby is alseep. The first couple of months my son I was born, I went crazy cleaning house when he napped. But by 4 months I learned to just relax when he napped. Keeping a sparkling clean house just isn’t worth it to be exhausted all the time. You know the old saying, better to have a happy momma than a spotless house.
Oh and when your husband comes home tonight, tell him the minute he walks in the door, “I need to go nap for a bit, I’m so tired. Watch the baby. Thanks!” And go lay down.
Good luck!
yes! when the baby sleeps, it’s your “alone” time when you can get work done or just relax and do something you enjoy. It’s hard to just unwind and sleep when there’s so much to do! Now that I’m back at work, it’s much easier. Things get left undone, b/c after a long day at work I’m ready to sleep when I get home!
yes I do I cannot sleep either when my baby sleeps too much stuff to catch up on with 2 kids the house gets extra messy and a husband who works a crappy night shift 12 hours 6 days a week and wears 6 layers of clothes a day, he does what he can but it is not enough plus he is only awake 4 hours before he has to go in to work again so I try to spend time with him.
I hear ya…I only naped a few times. If I do I throw her in bed with me, she will sleep longer.
Almost every morning when I wake up tired I say “I’m going to have a nap when she does” and every day I never do.There seems to be always something to do.Or just get alittle time for myself.
It will get easier….my baby is 4 1/2 months old and starting to sleep through the night.(not every night) but I feel so much better in the morning.
Good luck
I can’t do it either. For one, my baby only sleeps for about 30-45 minutes and he’s awake again. I can barely fall asleep in that time, and then I can’t stand having a messy house so I use any chance I get to do laundry and get dinner ready.
I never slept during the day when my baby slept..I was just chilling online, having tea, reading book,watch TV, do housework… because my baby slept at night. I was not tired…
Oh yes. Also its impossible for me to fall asleep by the time I do baby is awake!
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