we agreed before he was born that we wanted our son to go straight to the nursery and not sleep in our room because we wanted our room to stay our space to connect as a couple, and not be a family space
HOWEVER about 3 weeks after he was born I was having some problems with sleep deprivation and we realized it was because I was too nervous with him sleeping alone in the nursery so I was constantly awake listening to the monitor or running to check on him
SO we moved the baby into our room so that I could get some sleep (and its helping alot, I’m sleeping better than I have in months)
But now that our son is in the room with us, I feel awkward doing anything unless we move him into his room…which is such a hassle to move the baby out of the room to be intimate and then move him back when we’re done
my son is now one month and four days old
and I know according to the doctor we shouldn’t even be having sex again yet but we are; we started having sex again once the baby was 3 weeks old (and I have no regrets about starting early)
However, I do have one little hang-up that I can’t seem to get past and I was wondering if it was normal or if other women don’t have this problem?
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were on baby 3. and we have sex whenever we possibly can! always have your own TIME. not necessarly space.
aww sweetie yes! perfectly normal but I’m going to suggest to you to move the baby back into his own room hon. You’ll get used to it. Your original idea should of stuck imo. It’s not going to be fun and you’ll be nervous but it’s a must and the baby is right in the other room. You got a monitor! Your going to worry no matter what because he’s your baby and you sound like a great mom but you have to do this now before he becomes so used to being in the same room with you, it will make it 100 times harder later
Start following through on what you said and put the child back in his own room. Done. Problem solved! (Lesson here – be a woman of your word – it’s a good habit any parent should get into…)
My daughter slept in her crib from day 1 of bringing her home. There were a couple of nights I crashed in the twin bed that was in her room – breastfeeding side effect…but other than that she has always slept in her own room.
As for early sex – if you feel up to it and it feels okay – I see nothing wrong with it…We were active 4 weeks post-baby.
We have 4 children and we have sex with infants in our room! They move out to their own room after they quit nursing. BUT when in our room as long as they are asleep we have sex and don’t feel guilty, of course we might try to be a little quieter that other times but we still have sex in our bed in our room, so what if the little one is sleeping in a crib 7 feet away?
I have 2 kids and when they were babys and in mine and my husbands room I just couldnt seem to have sex it was to awkward!! It is definitely normal!
LETS SEE – you do not listen to the doctors, you do not keep your agreements, so instead of getting yourself UP, you do the exact opposite of what you KNOW is the right thing.
Sorry, but I follow doctors advice because I know WHY that advice has been established, AND I go out of my WAY to keep agreements I make with my husband. You seem rather hard headed and a bit on the selfish side – so I feel that you ignore good advice anyway.
I would HOPE that other women have LEARNED (this is 2009) by now, that it is NEVER a good idea to make your room the nursery too.
PUT THE BABY BACK IN HIS OWN ROOM!!!!!!!! duh????
It’s very important to re-connect with your husband… though why did you have sex against doctor’s orders? That could have been VERY dangerous and still could be. As for the baby sleeping in your room, I don’t know…
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