this child is potty trained. he is good during the day but comes bedtime,he doesn;t wake up to go bathroom instead he stays and wets the bed. When he feels the bed wet he just gets up changes his clothes and goes in his sister/brother or mother bed to sleep. please any advice.or is it to early for him to stop wetting the bed now?
I have treid using pull ups, but he somehow still find to wet the bed even with the pull ups on.
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well some doctors give out different types of medication…
but DO NOT PUT HIM ON DDAVP OR ANY KIND OF PILL, OR NASAL SPRAY!! I had to go to the hospital for 2 days because of dehydration when I was on some of the bed wetting medications. also you can try waking him/her up before you go to bed, but don’t get him up 2-3 times a night. this will cause him to loose much needed sleep and will cause you to loose much needed sleep. limiting drinks goes back to the dehydration problem. if you limit them to much you will have more problems.
goodnites work wonders. I know what she is going through. I am 17 and I started wetting the bed last year when I was under a lot of stress. I was trying to find my first job, was in 4 leadership positions in community clubs, have parents that give me hell over any thing and every thing, was trying to get into college early (I did end up getting into college 2 years early at the community college), and many many other things were going on in my life. I am proof that stress causes bed wetting.
I can also say that withholding drinks, waking up in the night, medication, and the whole list of crazy things that people on this site suggest do not work. medication for bed wetting has some nasty side effects that are worse than the bed wetting (IE. vomiting, dehydration, ect…) and when you wake them up in the night they only loose sleep which makes them do worse in school, and sometimes makes the bed wetting worse. you can try counseling, but that has a very low rate of sucess.
what I have found to be the best solution is to wear goodnites to bed. these keep the mess down and are a very good way to handle the problem. give him time, and he will out grow it. ether he will get used to the stress and it will go away, or the stress will go away and the wetting with it. he will out grow it one way or another.
this is very common in children under 7. All I can tell you is heavily limit water/fluids after dinner and wake him up in the middle of the night to have him pee. If it is neccesary have him wear diapers at night.
Its aggravating I know, but totally normal!!! Do not punish him or make him feel bad for something he has no control over. My son is almost 7 and he wet the bed until just a few months ago. My doctor said that this is normal for boys, it sometimes happens and they will grow out of it usually by age 10.
With some children, they are not physically able to wake up to go to the bathroom at night. My son is 10, and still has that problem. We have been to a urologist, and were told there is nothing physically, at least in a urological sense, wrong. We have tried 2 alarms, not giving any fluids after dinner, waking him up to go every few hours, and most recently, medication. Nothing has worked for him. There are many children who experience this, and they tend to grow out of it at various ages – it seems more common with boys. We are using Pull Ups as well, and do from time to time, have wet beds in the morning. If this is a consistent problem, it may be a size issue – perhaps the Pull Ups are too big or too small for your son. We have used a waterproof pad directly under the fitted sheet, which means we are only washing the sheet, and not mattress pad, etc. That has worked fairly well. I would encourage a visit to the doctor to rule out any physical causes, if you haven’t done so. It is an embarassing and frustrating problem for parents and children, and one with few easy solutions. Best of luck
I have the same problem with my 2 kids, ages 5 and 8. Our Family Doctor says that they have an immature blatter, thus the brain not triggering the child to wake. Best thing to do is stop your child from drinking any fluids 2 hours prior to bedtime. It does help somewhat, but I would seek advice from a family doctor.
take him to the doctor. this is really common especially in boys.
they can put him on a monitor and/or an alarm and/or meds.
he needs help, help him!!!
Is he drinking any fluids (drinks) a couple of hours before going to bed? If he is then I would give him less amount of drink and have him go to the bathroom before going to bed. Hopefully that will stop him from having this problem.
no fluid after 6 pm. or try putting diapers on him, kids hate it when they are potty trained (at least during the day)
I am sorry, but you have to give him lots of love and help him clean up afterwards. Don’t place shame on him. Get a book from your library on bedwetting and talk to your pediatrician. I have to tell you that I made the mistake with my daughter of telling her that she was too lazy to get up and go to the bathroom in the middle of the night and she pissed the bed until she turned 10!
Please don’t make the same mistake as me. Also, no drinks after 6 p.m. and make him go to the potty before bed time. I hope this works for you!
there is nothing you can do until his body learns to wake when it receives the “full” message from the bladder. Some kids are 10-12 before this happens. My daughter at 6.5 got the Mat and Bell system to learn to night train. At 5 he is too young. They (doctors) don’t tend to do anything till 6.5-7yrs. Have a look at this site. Hope it helps, it is from our Childrens hospital
this is normal even for older kids, buy the brand of training pants called “good nights” this look and feel like regular underwear but sure helps to keep a child dry and bed at the same time
1. Nothing to drink after dinner
2. Make sure he pees right before bedtime.
3. Without a smile on your face talk to him about it and how it makes you feel.
4. Pray he doesn’t dream of a river.
Sorry, I only know how to stop a 6 year old from wetting the bed.
take him to use the bathroom right before bed, and get him up to go again whenever you go to bed.
I have asked my doc about this…I have a 4 year old with the same problem – which I am told is not a problem. It is very common and they just need time for their bladders hold for the night. You can withhold drinks after dinner, make he goes to the bathroom at least twice before bedtime, and a friend of mine wakes her child before she goes to bed to have him go to the bathroom. I use Overnight pull-ups on my daughter which work well…you buy them by the weight of the child and they hold more urine than regular pull-ups. Good luck – I feel your frustration, but just remember that it won’t last forever!
Limit his fluid intake before bedtime and make sure he uses the bathroom before bedtime. If you have to check in on him and see if he needs to go to the bathroom.
He could have a very small bladder and needs to see a doctor, they have meds for small kids with that problem.
He proably does not mean to do that but just can’t wake up to go to the bathroom because my son who is 5 also has done that a couple of times.
Good luck
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Ok I’ve heard of some people doing this…track how long during the day it usually is between his bathroom visits and then set an alarm to go off so he can get up and go.
Or you could ask his brother or sister to wake him up whenever they have to go to the bathroom and take him with them so he gets to go too.
I believe there are some medications available,whether they work or not I don’t know.Try waking him during the night,it only takes a few minutes,and it’s better than the extra laundry everyday!!
I think it’s something that a child grows out of. Try waking him in the middle of the night to make sure he doesn’t have to go. Tell him to go before bed as well.
a child is not ready to stop wearing a diaper or pull up at night until they begin to always wake up dry. girls tend to master this before boys. it’s normal.
maybe a plastic sheet below him? I believe its not really anything you can stop… he’ll have to stop on his on and will eventually.
my doctor told me that boys wetting the bed is not a cause for concern until after the 7th birthday. my son wet the bed until he was 7 and a half. I cut down on his drinks and made sure he used the bathroom twice before bedtime. i know you are frustrated, and if he sees that or others are teasing him, it will only get worse. make him change the sheets and wash them and the dirty underwear if you have a washer at home. get some plastic and put it under the sheets. Good luck!
Ok wow reading some of these answer’s make’s me mad, my child is 11 and still wets the bed, do not stop them from drinking as you can not deprive a child of fluid’s. Do not put him in a diaper as one mentioned as he is not a baby. I thought there was more I could do to stop my son from wetting but you know what there is nothing you can do except wake them up before you go to bed and have them use the bathroom, this will get his body on a schedule. There are also bed alarm’s that go off when the child wet’s you may want to try that.
Contray to popular belief DO NOT cut out fluids!! try and Encourage water rather than juice or soda. Make sure your childs fluid intake is regular rather than trying to fit it all in at the end of the day.Always make your child strip their own bed and put wet Pajama’s in the washing machine themselves (they are they part of what is happening rather than feeling you are bothered by having to clean up after them. It has been proven that children first wet aprox 2 hours after going to bed so wake your son 2 hours after he has gone to bed(if you find he is wet already try waking him up half an hour earlier) and then wake him again before you go to bed. if you or your partner (if you have one) get up in the night get him up too it is all about retraining his brain. I am going through this routein with my 3 foster children and we are having more and more dry nights and the wet nights certianly aren’t as wet. failing all this you could try an alarm – but often with bed wetters the best thing is time.Never shame your son for wetting his bed but as I said above involve him make a dry night plan with him – you have things you need to agree to (such as waking him up,buying him pull ups etc) and he agrees to stuff too(such as he drinks regually throughout the day and evening.and he makes an effort to go the toilet every time he wakes up etc) . Make a HUGE deal when he gets a dry night and when he doesn’t tell him there is always tomorrow night!
I am having the exact same problem as you are. I have been making my son go to the bathroom before bed and then waking him to go again before I go to bed. So far so good. Good luck!
I’ve had the same problem. I make my son (who will be 7 in two months) go to the bathroom right before he goes to sleep. There have been times where he falls asleep before his actual bedtime, and I pick him up, asleep, and make him go. That has stopped the bed wetting.
give him a full bottle of gatoraid before bedtime. Then he will be up all night and will be able to utilize that potty training
take him to the bathroom B 4 bedtime,then set ur alarm at 2:00am you still have to help him to go to the bathroom till he get use to it or if all the advice did’nt work at all time to see the pediatrician.
Punish him.
Rub his nose in it every time he does it just like you would a dog.
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